Boston College philosophy professor Kerry Cronin has this assignment for her students:
Ask someone out on a date, where there will be no alcohol or physical contact.
Why is that so hard?
According to Cronin there are two reasons for the movement away from dating and relationships in college. First, with marriage ages averaging around 27-28 years old, marriage seems a long way off. Second, higher education is expensive, there’s often debt associated with it, so the focus is on finding a job, not a spouse.
But Cronin persists.
The student has to ask in person (no texting), and the recipient has to know it’s a date. And if they say they’re busy and to check back with them later, don’t. Just move on. The person who asks, pays. And the first date shouldn’t cost more than $10, include drugs or alcohol, or last longer than 90 minutes.
“This is mostly not about meeting your soul mate,” she says, “it’s mostly about social courage and challenging yourself to be a little countercultural, to do something you know you want to do. And to just be okay with being a little awkward, a little vulnerable and asking a little bit of yourself.”
Want to Geek out on some college dating stats? Some may surprise you. I was shocked (and dismayed) by the data–collected from apps–on what qualities we’re attracted to.
Want to debate the merits of using a dating app? Let’s do it here.
Read more here from the Washington Post about Kerry Cronin’s dating assignment.